When sadness becomes a daily, persistent experience that isn’t dramatically terrible, it can turn into stable misery. We can get so used to being unhappy, it becomes a bearable normal, even though it’s not healthy or fulfilling.
The good news is, we do have the power to move ourselves out of this place, and we can make our lives more fulfilling and joyful. But until we recognize and honor the things that need to be healed, they will keep showing up in our lives and impact how we show up in all our relationships.
In order to get out of stable misery, we need to be willing to dive into the things that trigger us, and work on moving towards joy step-by-step.
How can we identify stable misery in ourselves? Why should we explore the things that trigger us? In this episode, psychologist and family empowerment coach Dr. Lynyetta G. Willis, joins us to discuss the tools we can use to overcome triggers and unhealthy patterns.
Anything that you’re avoiding in your own personal journey is going to inevitably in some way, shape or form, be passed on to your kids. -Lynyetta Willis
3 Things You’ll Learn in This Episode
The 4 Horsemen of Parenting
Pain, blame, shame and avoidance are some of the negative experiences we might have faced in childhood. These things can make us feel unworthy, not good enough, and thinking that our voices aren’t important enough. These horsemen will gallop with us into adulthood and even into parenthood and need to be addressed.
Going from sadness to joy is a process, not a sudden change
Getting out of stable misery is not like a light switch, it’s more of a dimmer switch. We’re not going to go from stable misery to complete happiness in one go. Instead of thinking about completely getting out of misery, it’s about taking one step each day to bring us closer to joy.
Deal with the trigger internally, not externally
Unless we deal with the thing that’s bothering us, it will weigh us down like a rock and just get heavier the more we avoid it. Dealing with triggers doesn’t mean addressing them externally, it’s more about dealing with them internally. It’s more about not ignoring why it’s coming up and why it’s triggering us.
Many women are hesitant to pitch themselves to be on podcasts because they fear they may not be welcomed, or that they don’t have the right stories to share, and this is especially true for women of color.
Let’s face it, it’s difficult to compliment ourselves, so how can we overcome that? And for those of us who do have a platform, how can we encourage more women to feel more comfortable with pitching us?
On this episode, Visibility Strategist and Relationship Facilitator, Amelia Roberts shares why it’s so important for everyone to share the information within themselves, and how to pitch our stories.
3 Things You’ll Learn in This Episode
Do the mindset work
So often, we hold back from sharing our ideas because we aren’t sure they’re enough. A great way to combat this is by hiring a coach, someone who can help us sort through good ideas and those that need tweaking, and who can hold us accountable to taking action.
Do the research
To be featured on a podcast, do some research on the audience. Understand what they’re struggling with, and pitch with that in mind. If we know we have a solution to a common problem, we’re the perfect candidate to share our stories.
Create an inclusive environment
For those of us who do have a platform to share stories, it’s important to create a culture where everyone feels comfortable pitching to us. Do some research to find out how to serve those who aren’t pitching to us.
Amelia Roberts is a Visibility Strategist and Relationship Facilitator, and Founder of Solutions by Amelia. Amelia is a digital native who officially became a practitioner of online marketing twelve years ago with a role as a virtual assistant. Student loans from nursing school inspired her to put her love of observing human nature, showing empathy and previous marketing experience to work in new ways and as a result, she was able to pay off her student loans in under 2 years as a social media manager.
Now alongside other roles, you can find Amelia helping under-recognized professionals stand out and "get first dates" in business so that they can become thought leaders in the healthcare industry and beyond.
Amelia is the host of The Business of Nursing podcast.
When she is not optimizing human potential Amelia enjoys planning real and imagined food tours.
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Shemeca Tankerson, Sales Coach. After a staff member betrayed Shemeca’s trust, she has gone on to teach others how to TRUST their own value despite what all may happen in life and business. This gives an idea of her work: https://www.facebook.com/AskShameca/photos/a.145232632276451/667671976699178