Whether it’s friends, family or partners; when someone we love and trust betrays us, we go through a difficult cycle of emotions. It can feel like our whole life has come apart. What is the cycle of emotions and symptoms of this betrayal? How do we avoid getting stuck in that betrayal for the rest of our lives, and how do we find healing? On this episode, I’m joined by transformational psychologist, health and personal development expert and author, Dr. Debi Silber to discuss overcoming betrayal and how to come out of it stronger and happier.
If betrayal is not unearthed, felt and dealt with, it will follow you everywhere you go. - Dr. Debi Silber
3 Things We Learned From This Episode
Why betrayal needs to be dealt with (13:09 - 13:46)
There are so many things that betrayal leaves in its wake, and it affects every area of our lives until it’s healed. It can affect your confidence and ability to try for new opportunities. It may be felt in every relationship in your life, and even affect your health. Contrary to popular belief, it won’t just get healed by time. It actually needs to be dealt with if you want to get past it.
The spectrum of betrayal (18:36 - 20:34)
There are different ways to feel wronged or betrayed, and they can vary in the pain felt. Whether it’s someone not keeping their word to us, breaking trust, or even us breaking a promise we made to ourselves. Ultimately, the more we trusted and depended on that person, the bigger the betrayal.
How betrayal manifests physically (21:00 - 22:47)
Our bodies tend to tell us a lot about how we’re feeling emotionally and spiritually. Women who experience betrayal for the first time often deal with extreme exhaustion. It’s also common to experience gut issues. The gut is the “second brain” and is so intricately connected to your mind that it gives a lot of information about feelings. Gut health issues are often caused by holding onto something and not letting your feelings out.
The truth about betrayal is that there’s always meaning behind it and a way to grow from it. In order to get to that point, we have to do the work first. If we don’t, we can stay stuck for months, decades or a lifetime. People tend to stay stuck because they are unwilling to give up their story and accept what happened. They numb themselves, or they don’t establish any consequences for the betrayal. The truth is, when you feel it deeply and do the work to find meaning behind it, you will be transformed. You will experience rebirth and discover a new world view. You just have to be willing to go through the challenges to come out on the other side.
Dr. Debi Silber is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert and the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis. Through a recent PhD study on how women experience betrayal-what holds them back and what helps them heal, Debi has discovered the 5 stages from betrayal to breakthrough as well as what it takes (physically, mentally and emotionally) to move from one stage to the next. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx and more, she’s an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping women move past their betrayals and heal…once and for all. Go to https://pbtinstitute.com/ for more information.
To find out if you’re Struggling with Post Betrayal Syndrome™ take Debi’s quiz here https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/.